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a crush infatuation and the real thing sometime in Love the mind tricks the heart into believing what may be little more than an illusion to find out if you are truly in love take the
following quiz.Answer the folloingf question with yes or No. Choose Yes only if you haver your answer.If there's some doubt in your mind check No.
Perhaps you thought Yes answers revealed true love.Not so! It's the no replay that counts in each case except for Question7.Here is Why
1. Real love does not happen all of a sudden.When people say,"We fell in love the moment we met."they actually mean that each corresponded to a certain ideal image held by the other.Most
of us create these ideal in our minds whether we realise it or not.
thus when we find someone who looks acts and talks the way we imagined this special individual would we are attracted but that's all it is .Love can develop but it takes time.
2. JeLOUSY IS NOT A SIGN OF TRUE LOVE.oNE OF the greatest mistakes people can make is to believe that the more violent the jealousy the stronger the love.S Some jeaousy is normal between two people who care deeply about each other.But jealousy is really Possessiveness,
not love Psychoanalysts say that people who suffer acutely from jealousy often have an underlying sense of insecurity which leads to an overwhelming need to be loved.As a result,they can be extremely jealous even though they masy not be in love at all.
3. Sighing and daydreaming are signs of infatuation not love.Here's why Real love isd centered on the other person with your whole behavior directed toward his or her welfare and happiness. thus a man or woman in love can go on with their daily lives comfortably
Knoweing he or she is thereby contributing to the other's happiness. Infatuation on the other's hand is self-centered.The smitten one becomes absorbed in his ownmisery at being absorbed from adored one or in daydreaming about her.He is in love with love,not a human being.
4. Love does not diminish when one is away from the one. If you love a person more when you are with him,chances are that your judgment is being influenced by the charm and excitement of his presence.When he is not around to dazzle you,some doubtsa emerge .If you feel this way,indications are the love feel this way,indication are the love is superficial.
5 . Love is not really blind to a beloved's faults.The person in love knows and understands the other's shortcomings but cares deeply monetheless. The infatuated the adored has a tendency to regard the adored one as flawless.
6. An unhappy home life can trick you into thinking you're in love.The files of marriage counselors are filled with cases of younger people who "fell in love" and married when all they really wanted was to escape from pressures they considered
unbearable for example,a young girl who is constantly battling with her parents sees her loved one as the rescuing knight in shining armor who will "take her away from all this"She isn't is love she just wants out.
7. Love cannot always perch on Cloud Nine:it must be pratical too Two of the most crucial elements in a marriage experts point out are money and children.Young people seriously in love must Know each other's views on these topics.If a chances are the romance hasn't reached the real love stage.
8. Love does not make lovers ill at ease.When the way you impress the other person is the dominant concern in a relationship,real love is still distant.When you know you are loved for what are,you
feel at ease in the other's presence.
9. Being companions in misery is not the same as being in love.Marriage partners should be able to share miseries,but such sharing is not in itself love.
All too frequently young people mix up the two and enter into marriage simplyu because each has discovered a fellow sufferer with whom to unite against an unfriendly back ground.
10. Love is a Private bond between two people .Authorities agree it cant be real if one party permits intimate details of a relationship to be made public.It may be a bit of prestige in the group but hardly love.
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